Uncertainty and Unemployment

Dentistry, Lifestyle

My start to the new year came with an unexpected surprise – the dental office I work at was to be permanently closed come the end of January 2026. The very practice I have worked at for the past 10 years, that one! Apparently the company decided the cost of repairing some structural issues in the building, combined with an unaccommodating (borderline negligent) landlord, made it not worth renewing the lease on. The company’s director came down to the office on Monday, January 5th (our first day back after a brief holiday break) and informed us all that we would be closing our doors at the end of the month and being laid-off in the process. Me personally, I was shocked by the news. Some staff members later confessed they saw it coming months earlier – apparently, the company had my lead assistant doing inventory checks and some other suspicious activity that now makes a lot more sense in hindsight. Regardless, the past month has been filled with uncertainty to say the least.

The company was quick to notify families that another location they own was available to them for continued dental care and hastily tried to funnel them across town. Saying goodbye to the families I did see this past month was really hard. I have enjoyed their trust and loyalty to our office for over a decade – it’s actually quite surreal to think that much time has passed. Many families were kind enough to share their disbelief and dismay when they got the news – after all, I have literally seen their kids grow up. I reciprocated in saying how astonished and sad I was to leave that location and went on to thank them for entrusting me all these years.

I am sitting here trying to harness my emotions from that day when I first heard I’m being let go. I guess if I had to find one word to describe it, it would be ‘bitterness.’ I think when you are corporately owned, there is a detachment and an almost callous indifference to who gets impacted by decisions often made by people high-up and far removed from the operations on the ground. Most of the staff at this location became unemployed, lots of families that enjoyed our service need to find another dental provider; but none of the human element is factored into their decision-making process as we are just seen as insufficient numbers on a spreadsheet to these captains of industry.

This is the third job I’ve lost throughout my life. The first time, I was young (in my 20’s) – lived at home still, and the family support really made that layoff almost seem insignificant (if not welcomed). That was still while I was in my I.T. era, and the job I worked was from the hours of midnight to 8 am doing phone support, sooooo…good riddance? In 2015, I was working part-time at this current practice, when I lost my second job as a (pediatric) dentist with another group – which also helped lighten the burden of being fired. Maybe it is the 10-years of my life I spent here, but this most recent firing stings so much worse than any time before.

Thankfully I consider myself financially stable and responsible. With the help of my wife, we have lived below our means for some time – we’ve saved an adequate emergency fund, possess a diversified retirement portfolio, and suitably control our monthly expenses. Push come to shove, we will have to forfeit some tennis and piano lessons for our kids, eat out a little less, and skip that trip to Hawaii this year – but, thankfully a lot of the sacrificing we have done over the years affords us some peace of mind that we won’t starve or be homeless any time soon.

Another blessing in disguise as it turns out, has been keeping good relations within the community of dental professionals around me. After reaching out to share the news of our closure, to my surprise, so many offices welcomed a chance to meet and discuss employment opportunities or even a partnership collaboration. I was very touched. In some weird turn of events, it is looking like I may be even more busy now then when I worked my full-time job.

“When God closes a door, he opens a window” 

Nearly a month out now – the initial shock has settled and I am feeling quite optimistic about what the future holds. I remember speaking on previous posts about why I favor associateship – and while everyone’s experiences are different and it really is a case-by-case basis – at this point in my career I see more value in ownership, in equity, in doing something for yourself. I still have little to no faith in corporate loyalty towards its employees and I think most individuals are better off investing in themselves. That said, I am grateful that the associate position allowed me ample time to see my kids grow up and freedom from the stressors of running a business.

I am liking the prospects 2026 has in store. My New Year’s resolution is to not be in my head so much about undergoing change, but rather to embrace it and basically let the universe take the wheel. What are your thoughts? My apologies to anyone who reads my posts; it’s been an incredibly big gap – we got a dog – and there is a lot more I probably need to write about! Feel free to comment on your thoughts about change, and I’ll try and write again soon! Thanks for taking the time to read this one!

Overcoming the Obstacles

Lifestyle

If nothing else, life is complicated. At this moment in time, I am being faced with challenges and stressors to the likes of which I have never felt before. Unfortunately, right now, I am not at liberty to discuss any details – but perhaps one day. Essentially though, I think everyone is always going through something, right? I mean, the idiom “when life gives you lemons…” is a very popular expression for a reason. First and foremost, I think, time helps heal. Also, some principles from Stoicism have been especially meaningful to me right now – particularly to “recognize what you can and cannot control.” I want to talk today a bit about some actions I have taken lately to help refocus my thoughts, and try to mentally emerge from a crisis in my life.

My wife found me a life coach, that (mind you, I am only a couple sessions in) has introduced me to a heart-focused breathing technique that helps to neutralize my emotional reaction in the moment and reduce the impacts of stress at the time. I imagine this taps into the same powers of relaxation that meditation does for most people that practice it regularly. Again, I have only within the last few weeks started to incorporate some of this into my daily routine but I will say I find my overall mood has calmed and improved when I start to feel overwhelmed. During our sessions, I am actually hooked up to a monitor that tracks the physiologic effect it has on my body, and yeah – just something as simple as a couple minutes of slower, deeper breathing a few times a day can help neutralize depleting emotions.

I have started reading the book “Die with Zero” by Bill Perkins. To be honest, I did not start reading this because of the adverse event in my life, but rather, to try and motivate my youngest son to read more while he was on summer break. So far it has not worked. Nonetheless, I am enjoying the book quite a bit. It reminds me to try and create memories and have enjoyable experiences now versus trying to always accumulate a massive nest egg and focus on saving for the future. The author talks about “memory dividends” and how we derive a lot of happiness from fond memories of those trips and events and activities we participated in years ago.

“Money can buy many things, but it cannot buy time. Invest in experiences, they will last a lifetime.” ~ Bill Perkins

Yet another thing I have been working on, and this very well may come off as a shameless plug, is that I am helping my kids start a YouTube channel. As of this post, we have released three videos here. I would like to see it do well (so please like and subscribe 😛) but I was more interested in it as a bonding experience with them. Together, we are learning a bit about video editing, thumbnail creation, cinematic lighting, etc.. I find working on projects like this a healthy distraction from what may otherwise be moping and sulking in despair about life’s problems. With each video, we look for new ways to improve the quality; whether it is investing in better equipment, incorporating transition effects, researching YouTube’s algorithm and increasing visitors, you name it – there are endless things out there to keep your mind occupied.

I still find exercising to be my saving grace in trying and difficult times. I need to go more often then I do. If this was a post about health, and where I currently am at physically, I would honestly be ashamed of myself. My diet is poor, the Las Vegas summer heat always brings a sense of lethargy, and having horrible events happen in your life just adds to a trifecta that easily leads to depression. It is hard, it is heavy and it takes a lot to just make it through a day. I will end with one more Stoic premise – “you determine your reaction to a crisis.” Wishing you all positive energy, and thank you for taking the time to read this post!